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Perfect morning at the market. Bob scored a Popsicle, I ran into my Purchase Potters (otherwise known as Hawksbill from Charlottesville) and had a nice chat with Cynthia the bagellini lady!
SUNY College at Purchase was pretty experimental for a state school. I danced with Bill Bales and created a senior project you can still find in their library. Just ask the Rocker, he saw it when he was interviewing there. The bride has Hawksbill mugs, and I have their plates. Beautiful. Done rambling, see for yourself.

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Does morality matter? Is it an objective or a subjective experience? These are questions for philosophers, but last week I found myself tackling them while riding a stationary bike at a hotel gym. I like to read The New Yorker while exercising; expanding my mind a little as well as strengthening my knees. The article, by Larissa MacFarquhar, was titled “How to be Good.” Intriguing. It was all about one of today’s most brilliant philosophers, an Oxford recluse named Derek Parfit.

http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2011/09/05/110905fa_fact_macfarquhar

Parfit, after distilling the best ideas from Greek philosophers and more modern principles of morality like Kant, thinks there are universally true answers to moral questions, almost in the same way mathematics has concrete answers. These truths, obtained through intuition and critical reasoning, remain the same whether we humans are able to perceive them (hence the term “universal”), or not.  Buddhist monks have been known to teach from his first book, “Reasons and Persons,” much to his surprise. And now he has published an epic tome, “On What Matters.”

“Is the truth depressing? Some may find it so, but I find it liberating, and consoling.” Parfit

Why even try to explain his philosophy in 400 words or less? Because this morning I learned that the state of Georgia just put a man, Troy Davis, to death, and because I had always believed in the death penalty, and because, thanks in no small part to my children, I no longer do. Will there always be grey areas for me? Yes, but… Parfit’s main idea is that rules of morality, those which might be accepted by all, would also have the best possible consequences – this is called “…rule-consequentialism.” In the case of a state-sponsored execution, we have to ask what is the best consequence to a country, a state or the doctor pushing that syringe?

I wonder why our country is still imposing the death penalty. According to Amnesty International, we rank as the fifth highest country still performing legal executions; right behind Yemen, North Korea, Iran and no.1 – China. “The death penalty has been abolished for all crimes by every country in Western Europe. In Eastern Europe the Russian Federation has held a moratorium on executions and death sentences for more than 10 years.” What would Parfit have to say about this? If in fact he believes that  life, as do I, cannot be arbitrary, then neither can death.

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Hard driving, pure rock. Here it is, Parlor Mob’s newest video coming out of the shadows. Kudos to Mark, Dave, Paul, Tony and Sam! Release date 10/11 and don’t miss the Stone Pony show on October 14th which will feature Plus Plus Minus (Jed Higgerson of Hello Lovely, Lisa Cusack-English of boy/girl, and Quinn English of The Gay Blades).

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First weekend back from Nashville, Bob and I hiked up the hill to Monticello’s 5th Annual Harvest Festival, for the first time. There were banjos in abundance, heritage seed swappings, a demo from the White House Pastry Chef, hard cider tastings, and a cheese truck. Needless to say, I was in heaven. Found out that the President and his family only have dessert on the weekends. And their favorite dessert? Pie! Mostly fruit pies in season.

On our way back down the mountain, Bob said, “It’s like Woodstock, only without the mud.” He waxed nostalgically about the school bus, while I thought about the Newlyweds at the Austin City Limits Music Festival – a modern day version of Peace and Love. It felt like “Back to the Future” when the Rocker’s awesome new Parlor Mob music video debuted on my iPhone at a rest stop in TN… on the long trek home from the Music City, listening to an audiobook alternately with my son’s Rock and my son-in-law’s Bluegrass/Indie music. Check out The Bourbon Family, they are pretty great: http://bourbonfamily.bandcamp.com/

Bourbon Family

“And the seasons, they go round and round and the painted ponies go up and down.” Luckily Bob stopped me from singing Joni Mitchell in public.  Now I am inspired to keep bees and plant fruit trees. And maybe, just maybe, learn to play the dulcimer. And most definitely hit up a karaoke bar!

 

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While taking a little “What you can get for your money” house tour the other day, the one that stood out, for its square footage and general charm, sat directly across the street from one of the country’s oldest Head Start programs in TN. Situated in a Gothic castle-like structure, parents and buses were pulling in to pick up their children. And my first thought was, how can it be that we still need this program in our great country?

Poverty stats were simultaneously published by the Census Bureau. It seems we have the highest number of people living below the poverty line since 1993 – 15.1%. According to The New York Times: “Minorities were hit hardest. Blacks experienced the highest poverty rate, at 27 percent, up from 25 percent in 2009, and Hispanics rose to 26 percent from 25 percent. For whites, 9.9 percent lived in poverty, up from 9.4 percent in 2009. Asians were unchanged at 12.1 percent. ” With more budget cuts looming in local, state and federal budgets, I’m afraid our numbers will only get worse. Teachers and social programs will be the first to feel the chill of our deepening recession.

While teaching in a Jersey City Head Start program in the early 70’s, I took my children on a field trip. We walked around the neighborhood one day. There was an abandoned, burnt-out building sitting in the middle of a weed-filled block with a rusty old dump truck. It was a distorted page from a Richard Scarry children’s book. A tiny 4 year old asked me what was going to happen there, and later I told my class there would probably be a beautiful park there one day. I described the future playground. My aide said the city would just put a fence around it.

We can’t give up on our children. That’s not what Americans do.

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Thirty two years ago I was expecting a big baby. She was a week past her due date and breech. When the doctors yelled 6:02 I was surprised, wasn’t it supposed to be bigger?

Expectations can guide you, or they can divert you from your path. 6:02 pm was the time not the weight. And she has exceeded all my expectations. Happy Birthday to my daughter, Every day I am so proud and happy to call you mine.

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On this Day

We remember the fallen, and give thanks for the love of family and friends. May the differences among nations and religious ideologies only serve to strengthen our commitment to peace

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My absolute favorite NY Times’s columnist Tom Friedman has come out with a new book co-authored by Michael Mandelbaum, a foreign policy expert at Hopkins, “That Used to be Us: the Path for American Renewal.” Note to self – download on Kindle now! Every time I’d read one of Tom’s columns, I’d email it downstairs to Bob’s office, and he would reply with “Tom for President!” What is it about the world he seems to get? He takes a catholic view, in the purest definition of the word; meaning “…broad or wide-ranging in tastes, interests, or the like; having sympathies with all; broad-minded; liberal.”

Tom (we’re buddies dontcha know) talked on the Today Show about how our country got into the political and economic doldrums we seem to be suffering from currently. The subtitle to the book is, “How America Fell Behind in the World It Invented and How We Can Come Back.” His point is that we have to find our way back to the Greatest Generation’s culture of sustainability, rather than the Baby Boomer’s generation of situational values. In other words, doing what feels good now isn’t going to get us back on top. China is overtaking us in so many ways. We need to save and invest in the future so we can have: the best education system; a sound infrastructure; allow for the best and brightest to immigrate; create rules (and enforce, my idea) for investment; and allow for government funded research.

After listening to that debate last night, which included references to border fences and Ponzi schemes, I’m not sure everybody’s listening. I hope our President reads the book before his speech on jobs. This is nothing new. I stood on line to get gas in the 70s and was the recipient of a  government funded grant to start-up an entry level social work position. We had a compost in the Berkshires, our friends always shared baby clothes and cribs and toys. Or we bartered. After Ada told me she had just made banana bread because her bananas were going bad, I looked at mine and pulled out a bowl to start mashing. Maybe I should learn how to darn, and not just knit socks?

Ada with the Bride-to-Be and MOH

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First of all, happy birthday to Freddie Mercury today. Queen’s indomitable frontman would have turned 65 today, and thank you Google for reminding us all. But let’s talk about another queen. Over this past holiday weekend, my lovely daughter the Bride celebrated her very first wedding anniversary by working a night shift in a very busy ER. She responds to many names: Doctor; Darlin; Magoo; and of course when I would recite her full name in response to teenage angst. And somewhere along the way to adulthood, she became the Queen of Stir-Fry.

I remember the first time I cooked a meal for my parents. It was Welsh Rarebit – a can of tomato soup with melted cheese and toast points. They were returning home from a big banquet and gallantly forced themselves  to eat. We laughed later about this innocent offering, a play on grilled cheese and tomato soup. And I remember the first meal the Bride made for us, the wok was chockful of fresh veggies and tofu. And whenever she’d return home for school vacations, this was a go-to, quick fix meal with anything left in the refrigerator, and she became the expert. A pinch of herbs, a dollop of fish sauce, and a star was born.

I recently bought a smaller wok, the better to stir-fry for two. So when Bob said he’s got okra ready to harvest in the garden, I pulled that baby out and started chopping. Stir-fry is so simple and so good. It makes any vegetable taste better. Here are the rules: use canola oil (olive and peanut oils tend to smoke and take away from the taste); start with garlic and add the tomatoes and pea pods last so they are crunchy; season with fresh herbs and soy, peanut  or fish sauce. If you look closely, you’ll see the tiny rounds of okra!

I still miss my daughter in the kitchen.

A year ago the weather suddenly changed, the drenching humidity blew away and the sun was shining on the new couple. We celebrated their marriage under a tent in an apple orchard. This is what it says on my Mother’s 1954 New Settlement cookbook – “The Way to a Man’s Heart.”

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Hard to believe, but someone somewhere is putting away their white clothes this weekend. I say wear white all year! It is the color of the Suffragettes, the color of Surrender. Give peace a chance and dare to wear white after Labor Day!

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