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We women were thinking globally long before computers and airplanes flattened the world. But excuse American women for not knowing much about International Women’s Day. The holiday actually started as part of the Socialist labor movement in Russia in the early 1900’s (probably why it was played down over here) and quickly spread to encompass voting and other civil rights. I love this picture – kind of ironic, the sign about the power of reproduction, isn’t it?
“Our employers have wealth, we have the power of reproduction”

The strange thing is, I’d never even heard about an international holiday for women until I was abroad, and going out to dinner. I was hand delivered a rose with a bow by the maitre’d. It seems that most men on the planet earth give the women in their lives flowers on this day. It’s like Mother’s Day in the states, only for daughters, sisters, grandmothers, aunties, cousins and unsuspecting female American tourists.
http://www.internationalwomensday.com/about.asp

As a proud, bra-burning 70s American feminist, I was slightly dismayed. Really, what started out as a fight for civil rights has ended up as a hallmark holiday – with all of the floral swagger and none of the good sales. I’m heading out to my card shop now, I’d like to see if they have any IWD cards next to the St Patrick’s Day greenery.

Yesterday our Governor signed into law a bill that will require a hateful, misogynistic, humiliating procedure be carried out by a doctor, nurse or tech at an extremely fragile time in a woman’s life. Maybe this woman is just too young, maybe she was raped, maybe she learned that the zygote she is carrying has no chance of survival due to some genetic anomaly. Well, the transvaginal part of the ultrasound before an abortion has been removed. But the transducer must still, by order of our government, be scanned across her belly and she must be asked if she’d like to watch and listen to the heartbeat. Then think about it for a few days and come back for the procedure, all on her nickel.

When will you get it through your heads. We are smart, we women, and we know what we are choosing and wouldn’t it be lovely if we didn’t have to do this, but ultimately it’s a decision for the woman to make with her doctor. Let me repeat, woman plus doctor equals reproductive rights. I honestly thought religion had no place in our public policy decisions, but ladies , march on. Let’s send our governor some dead roses, shall we?
http://soundcloud.com/carcon/09-dead-flowers

Talk show shock-jocks have a problem. Though I never, ever listen to Rush Limbaugh, word on the net is that he feels invincible. After the embarrassing photo op of an all male congressional hearing about birth control (yes ladies and gentlemen, this IS the 21st Century and we have not stepped into a time machine, or have we?),
Limbaugh decides to call a female Georgetown law student, a “slut” and a “prostitute” for sitting alone and testifying on the Hill about her friend, who could not afford to pay for the birth control pill. This friend has polycystic-ovarian-syndrome, and she’s gay, so she’s not using it for contraception. She’s already had one ovary removed. And after 3 days of ranting on about this young law student who had the unmitigated gall to stand up for women everywhere, Limbaugh suggested she send him her sex tapes!? Now after losing countless advertisers, and two squeamish half-hearted apologies, this good ole boy is still talking at Clear Channel.

Is it fair to start the comparisons?
http://www.cnn.com/2012/03/05/opinion/frum-rush-limbaugh-fairness/index.html?hpt=hp_bn9

Yes, I think it’s fair. Don Imus got the boot for calling a woman’s basketball team at Rutgers “nappy-headed hoes.” It’s not a right/left issue to me. It’s common decency, it’s civility….but some things are still protected in this country and speech is one you won’t hear me complaining about. I understand Bill Maher used the “C” word about Palin, and I think that language is indefensible. However, he is on a cable channel, you can unsubscribe from HBO….radio waves are everywhere, and everyone ostensibly can listen. The Rocker would wake up to Howard Stern in the morning, and if that’s what it took to get him to school, so be it.

Here is your reality check for today:
http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/video/2012/03/06/jon-stewart-on-rush-limbaugh-hes-extremely-loud-incredibly-gross

I heard a woman say, “I tried to be a toe up kinda girl.” She was talking about knitting socks; she starts at the top and works her way down, which is the opposite way of most knitters. Most of us like people who start at the bottom and work their way up the ladder of success. We Americans will always root for the underdog, at least that’s what my Dad taught me. And this is where Limbaugh was like Imus in the Morning, they used words to bully from the top down on their radio pulpit. Shame on you. It’s time you guys got out from under our skirts!

http://teamuterati.com/from-the-front-lines

This morning I woke to a line of deep slate grey-blue mountains. No wind, some sun and the feeling that Spring has definitely arrived. But on Friday, I should have known something was up. Sitting down at the computer in my third floor aviary office, my thoughts were interrupted by a beautifully indignant bluebird. First he flew at my window like a kamikaze pilot, then he sat down on the windowsill and proceeded to peck at his reflection, occasionally looking me right in the eyes. “What an orange breast you have Mr Bluebird,” I said. He just kept knocking.

Bob speculates that it’s mating season, and the bird saw his reflection as a territorial challenge. I’m not so sure, because two things happened later that same day and they both had to do with nature and destiny. Killer tornadoes swept across the South and the Midwest, with one aiming straight for the Bride and her Husband in Nashville. This was the second storm in 48 hours, first taking 13 and now about to take 38 lives. A friend who grew up in tornado country says you just get a feeling when they’re coming – the sky changes color, rain comes sideways and the wind will switch directions. And then there’s the sound of a train. We were on the phone with our daughter, who was home alone and had heard the sirens.

Luckily, she has a basement. Gathering her dogs, laptop, cell and a book, she headed downstairs. It was late afternoon, the Groom was still at the hospital and she was scheduled for the graveyard shift. We watched the radar loop online, tracking the tornado which touched down just south of the city. I was the Madame Defarge of knitting while Bob tracked the eye of the storm and sent text after text. It’s almost impossible to imagine or describe my feelings for that hour, until she instagramed a picture of her hand, outside, holding a golf ball sized piece of hail. The “all clear” siren had sounded.

But I did say two things happened on Friday. I learned that our state Attorney General, Ken Cuccinelli was thwarted by the VA Supreme Court in his race against science and reason, vs UVA and Michael Mann. If you recall, I wrote about the Climate Change scientist here:
https://mountainmornings.wordpress.com/2012/01/14/baby-its-cold-outside/

This is Mann’s response to winning his battle over politically fueled religious nutcase deniers: “I’m pleased that this particular episode is over. Its sad, though, that so much money and resources had to be wasted on Cuccinelli’s witch hunt against me and the University of Virginia, when it could have been invested, for example, in measures to protect Virginia’s coast line from the damaging effects of sea level rise it is already seeing. One would have hoped that the fact alone that the Inspector General of the National Science Foundation last year looked into the allegations by Cuccinelli and other climate change deniers against me, and found that there was absolutely no basis to them, would have ended the attacks against me. But as I describe in my just published book “The Hockey Stick and the Climate Wars”, they are part of something much larger—a coordinated assault against the scientific community by powerful vested interests who simply want to stick their heads in the sand and deny the problem of human-caused climate change, rather than engage in the good faith debate about what to do about it.”

Bluebirds, tornadoes, and hockey sticks, oh my. Can you hear them knocking?

Ivy Farmers gathered again last night to discuss the book Hedy’s Folly, by Richard Rhodes. The day was rain soaked, falling out of the sky in buckets along with a cacophony of thunder that surprised Ms Bean. Unlike my Buddha, she was not afraid and simply raised her ears and eyebrows as if to say, “That’s interesting!” My friend Barbara drove this time through puddles and patches of ground fog to our “meeting of the minds,” to discuss Old Hollywood celebrity, genius, and German Shepherds who routinely escape their Invisible Fence. Now their owner must appear in “Dog Court.”

Hedwig Kiesler, aka Hedy Lamarr, was one of Hollywood’s earliest film sirens. I vaguely remember seeing old black and white movies of her on late night TV before TCM. What I didn’t know is that she was an astonishingly complicated, and smart woman who escaped Vienna and the looming Nazi threat (she was Jewish) while at the same time abandoning her husband, Fritz Mandl, an extremely wealthy, and abusive Austrian arms dealer. In this book, we find that the “most beautiful woman in the world” has a brain, and that she teams up with a New Age musician, George Antheil, originally from Trenton, NJ to invent “…a radio-controlled “spread spectrum” torpedo-guidance system, for which they received a patent in 1942.”

Because Hedy was a glamorous movie star, and George was an avant garde composer, the US government did not take them seriously. However, cell phones, GPS and Blue Tooth technology today are only possible because of their unlikely collaboration and invention!

We wondered if being a beautiful and brilliant woman today poses the same challenges. I’ve heard that single Harvard women don’t like to drop the “H” bomb on unsuspecting dates. Really guys, still?

A Cautionary Tale

“The world breaks everyone…”

Another school shooting, this time in Ohio. Another teen died this morning, making two so far. We hear there was a football coach who chased the student/shooter out of the school, that he and another teacher had donned bullet proof vests they kept in a closet. And of course, the media is focused on the perpetrator, TJ Lane who is 17 years old and described as a “quiet” kid by some and an “outcast” by others. He attended an alternative school, for at-risk students. It was most likely a half day program – mornings at the regular school campus, afternoon bus to the vo-tech or alternative campus. Have we learned anything since Columbine?

Well, the book Columbine by Dave Cullen was surprisingly cogent and illuminating. It’s not about the stereotypes, outcasts, jocks vs goths or greasers and preps, depending on your decade. It’s about depression and pschopathology. It’s been reported that 6% of American teens suffer from clinical depression – that adds up to 2 million kids! Until we can revamp our educational system to serve ALL our young people, and not by shuttling the disconnected off to another campus, we will have to rely on teachers to buy bullet proof vests. Until we control how, where and who can buy guns, (sorry GOP) we will unfortunately continue on our wild west path.

My heart goes out to these families. And not just the victims, but to the Lane family as well. And now the President is being criticized for being “snobby,” for articulating what every single parent wants for their child – achieving a post HS degree. To survive high school with your confidence intact is a noble thing. The survivors in Ohio will have to fight to return to some kind of normal. We all navigated our way through adolescence in different ways. I was the song and dance girl, Bob was the brainiac, the Bride was brilliant and carried a big field hockey stick, and the Rocker? He was my music man who couldn’t care less about the hierarchy.

“…and afterward many are strong in the broken places.” Here is the rest of Hemingway’s prose that Clinton didn’t read: “But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry.” Thanks Ernest.

Waiting Patiently

Here is a picture of Ms Bean this morning, waiting patiently. She is waiting for me to get up, to feed her, to let her out, to pick up her totally demolished Lambie Pie and throw it high in the air so she can jump up and catch it on the fly, thereby exhibiting her long, gorgeous GoGo Gadget legs. She is waiting for Bob to reappear at the door, for the wind to die down so she can go out and look for him. She is waiting for me to drop a little crumb of my granola breakfast since it looks like I’m not moving anytime soon. She is wondering if there is any trace of rabbit or deer in the front yard under her favorite viburnum. She is wondering what I’m looking at. Just because her collar is askew and her ears are floppy doesn’t mean she’s not very particular. She is. She is particularly good at waiting.

Ms Bean’s humans are not quite so patient. Can you guess what we’re waiting for?

Bowling Alone

It would seem that what happened in the Lone Star State without much of a whimper, is going to blow up in the Old Dominion. I first started writing about this repugnant piece of legislation called the “ultrasound bill” awhile ago, highlighting a woman delegate’s idea for a man to submit to a rectal exam should he seek medical care. Then Jon Stewart did a brilliant skit and VA became a national laughingstock. Now Gov Bob McDonnell is backing down. I guess his greater ambitions got the best of him. All it took was thousands of women standing mute outside the Capitol this week, and millions of signatures on petitions; and probably more lucid members of his own party. Today is a Day of Outrage for women and the men who love them in VA – if you would like to write to the Gov, please feel free, just ask him to “Please veto mandatory ultrasound and two-trip requirements for women seeking abortion care in Virginia.”
http://www.governor.virginia.gov/AboutTheGovernor/contactGovernor.cfm
I did and his site was so busy it took a full 10 minutes for the email to sail off.

It got me thinking of Greta Garbo, the Flapper’s favorite actress. “I vant to be alone.” Then Bob looked up Justice Brandeis’ 1928 quote on his iPad. Speaking in Olmstead vs US about wiretapping, he said that one of a citizen’s most important rights is “The right to be left alone.” Now here was a man ahead of his time, he even envisioned a future where papers may not have to be taken from a drawer, but ‘by another means’ produced in court. Technology wasn’t a word yet, so he imagined a ‘psychic method.’ Imagine that before the Great Depression, he could envision computer hacking! Which led me to think about a landmark book, Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam. This gifted Harvard Public Policy Prof has often said that with great social changes comes great controversy. Once we bowled in leagues after work, and now our social capital is diminishing – we bowl alone, we sit in cubicles in front of computers alone while ostensibly connecting with others. Here are some of his ideas for becoming more invested in a democracy:http://www.bettertogether.org/150ways. Hey Bob, check out #119…

Thank you women of VA, for telling the Gov we are watching, we want government to leave us alone! This religious attack on contraception and women’s health is unconscionable, outdated and immoral. Our bodies, our choice, our doctors! We knit together, and we vote – red, blue and purple.

Happy, snowy President’s Day everyone. This weekend we avoided big box store sales and headed up the mountain to our very own Monticello. Even if we didn’t live here, I’d have to count Mr Jefferson as one of my very favorite presidents. His writing, his architecture, his grandchildren! We met cousins Anita and Skip for an author’s book launch lecture, “Jefferson’s Granddaughter in Victoria’s England,” by Ann Lucas Birle.

Ellen Wayles Coolidge was a favorite granddaughter. She was schooled alongside TJ at Monticello by her Mother in all the classics that young men would learn in the early 19th Century. Her retired Grandfather would hum Scottish tunes while he worked and always made time for little Ellen; calling to her, asking how many thousands of things she must have to talk to him about. She didn’t marry until she was 27, almost ancient for a bride at the time, and most likely because she was not only brilliant and charming, she was extremely witty. I imagine a young suitor may have been intimidated by her presence, along with the requisite entrance into the Great Hall in order to meet the President, her Grandfather. The not so young Mrs Coolidge managed to have 6 children in 5 years (there was a set of twins) and if ever there was a reason for contraception, Mr Santorum, just read some history!

If she lived today, she’d be a blogger! She wrote almost daily in her “fully indexed” travel diary from 1838 to 1839 and as a result, we can now read about her first trip to England. Ellen Coolidge’s health was failing after such rapid-fire childbirth, and so the trip was planned to restore her body, mind and spirit. Her writing is fiercely personal, but with lightening flashes of divine satire. It’s as if Edith Wharton met Jon Stewart. She writes of the Coronation, the Tower, of art and the great English writers she meets. And about Thomas Jefferson she says:

“My grandfather can never be a favorite of the few, being himself the friend of the many. There is a perpetual opposition between the rich and the poor which makes an advocate for the one always appear an opponent of the other; but this is temporary; posterity, although divided into the same classes, judges with less ‘esprit de corps’ the actions of past times and tardy justice is done….”

Do you Know

That February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month?
http://www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2012/01/31/presidential-proclamation-national-teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-pr

And that for the first time in 18 years the Senate did not approve the landmark Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). “It was reauthorized with overwhelming bipartisan support in 2000 and again in 2005. Not this year.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/14/violence-against-women-act_n_1273097.html

That on average 3+ women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day in this country? That one in five women are raped – one in six will be stalked? Look at a class of say 20 middle school girls; this means that four of them will experience rape in their lifetime. There’s something happening here…

Let’s spread the word…

Yeardley Love trial

Concierge Doctors

By now you must know I married into a family of doctors. Bob’s father and his two uncles were doctors. He has a cousin on Long island who is an orthopedist, and one who was a practicing OB back in NJ. We have the MD gene and it runs deep. We would pack the kids up for the annual trip back to my MIL’s Seder each year, and one room was always devoted to a pick-up medical clinic – a Woody Allenesque review of sprained joints and aches and pains. So I’ve been hearing the disheartening rumbling with managed care for a long time now; but I’ve only recently heard about the Concierge or Boutique practice model.

Yesterday, a woman at the knitting circle mentioned her Cville doctor was turning his office into a Boutique practice and she was very willing to pay $1,600 a year for his time and attention. Now that’s just the fee to stay one of his patients, he’s whittling down the numbers from around 2,000 to only 500 patients. Some doctors will take medicare and insurance, others have given up completely and bill you, insisting the patient deal with the third party.This woman also said she thought that Proctor and Gamble owned the company that was going to run his new office. Look around, Family Practice and Internal Medicine docs are flocking to this model, officially called “retainer medicine.” This annual fee she felt would guarantee her access to the doctor, via email and phone, immediate appointments and even house calls!

I was surprised at my reaction. I said that’s too bad, because I see it as an ethical dilemma. In our great country, where the public option was taken off the table in the new Affordable Health Care reform act we barely managed to pass in order to appease insurance companies, a Concierge practice will only broaden the socio-economic gap between those who have so much, and those who are struggling to get by. The broad part of the middle class will become more fractured. I became slightly edgy, ranting about our fee-for-service medicine like I was some kind of, dare I say, socialist liberal. My knitting suffered. Intuitively, I just felt it was wrong. How can America be so alone in the world at not providing universal health care for its citizens? Here we are, with Africa…

Yet when I searched a popular physician website for “Concierge Medicine” there were 8,340 articles – all of them positive. They compared it to the choice of a private school over public, they said that while waiting for government to fix the system they decided to “…take matters into their own hands.” They reported about doctors going bankrupt! http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2012/01/concierge-boutique-label-discredits-retainer-medicine.html They almost made me a believer. Almost. What do you think?